sunchele

a woman, looking for a man aged 30-45

About me

About me:

First, you must have confidence in yourself. Know what you want. If you find something in me, you want to date and I don't seem interested. Well, the best love and the biggest heart attach of my life perused me, an caught me by surprise. I wasn't even thinking about him, I was pursuing someone else. The non-negotiable with me is I am 39 and want kids. At this point statistics are not in my odds, but I am holding on to that path until nature tells me otherwise. I have an undergrad in Architecture for Univ. of Kansas and an MBA from GA Southern. Spent 18yrs in the Army Reserves as an EN Officer. Operation Iraqi Freedom I, Hurricane Katrina. On my 5th house (Own 3). A compassionate "A" type personality. Achievements, experience and adventure are the name of the game. Currently, I am looking for the next goal or that next step in life (long term relationship) and facing facts that, that search has given me some drama. I am a professional, but still sowing my oats. If I do something of the beaten path (just did one and I am not telling), just remember how many woman do you know have been to war, jumped out of a plane (will never do again, used one of my 9 lives), and locked and loaded a weapon with finger on the trigger with intent to kill? Thank goodness, I never had to prove I could pull the trigger, but believe I have the character to put it behind me, if I needed to. Never have, but believe I would kill an animal to put it out of its misery. You just have to do it. Ok, the mice on the sticky tape in Iraq, I got someone else to do it. --Hobbies - Boating on someone else's boat, exercising (Teach spin, weights, running, biking, swimming, mini triathlons, racquetball), socializing, reading, painting, anything new, traveling, hiking, adventuring, walking with my dogs. --Music - In music there is a soul. My fondest relationships, included music. Love all types, but not into Rap unless it is Hip-Hop. My ballroom dancing (Latin) and teaching spin classes (Hip-Hop) have diversified my taste of music. Favorites are Live, Fleetwood Mac, Crosby Stills and Nash, JoyDrop, Bob Seager, Chris Daugherty. I listen to country when I am happy and alternative when i am not. --Mentor - Ayn Rand, the author of the book Atlas Shrugged. Not that I agree with everything Ayn Rand. She did not always practice what she preached. She preached to take charge of your life and make it the best possible; she just did it at the stake of others. She had an open affair with man while she wrote the book. Must haves in who I am looking for in a relationship (Take a deep breath, it might sting). --I want to have children. This is none negotiable. Think hard about yourself. Last ex-boyfriend took 4 months to determine his maybe was a no. We broke up promptly. Face it, I am not getting any younger. If your ex is not a complete phyco, you have kids and I will not feel like number 3 in your life, keep reading. --Now the superficial stuff, if you have to loose some weight, pass on me. I have tried, but will never be attracted to men with a tire around their waist or a belly with legs. At least, not until I fall in love first. Face it, men loose weight easier than woman, what is your excuse? Yuk, I hated saying all of that, but I don't want to waste my time or yours. I do not feel like a petite woman, if a man makes me feel like I am larger than him, I am not happy with myself, so 5'11" and over. --Need someone strong enough to settle me down a little, who is focused and who can uplift me by example and motivate me into a better person. Not that I need a whole lot of that, it would just be good to add someone else into my decision process. --If you have ever dated on a schedule, you will not be for me. Meaning, if we see each other on Tuesday and Sat. nights; I get bored easy and that would make my skin crawl. --If you can have an opinion and can provide an intelligent conversation as to why, I will fall in love. I might not like your opinion, but I hope you are open to the fact that I might be different or I haven't made my mind up yet. I admire anyone who has chosen a political party and have an understanding why they did. If you can't answer why, hummm? I have debated which side I am on for the longest. As an example, where do you stand on Mexican illegal immigration. If I were an economist and made it my life's work to correctly evaluate the ramifications, I might be able to tell you which side I am on. You are welcome to add to my pros and cons. I am in the belief that every human has the God given right to pursue happiness (just not at the stake of others). Why should your birth location give you your ticket to happiness? Health care, face facts, we all die, but did we all LIVE? --If you would like to share interests, that is cool. If you want to be absorbed into my life, I might like you at first, but it won't last. Bring something to the table!!! --I am not a huge cook. If you are, cool. If you are not, than cooking together is exciting. I am not into cooking alone, unless you have gotten to my heart and I am planning a romantic evening for two. BTW, the BBQ is for you!!!! --If you don't snuggle, I don't care what you have, it will not work. You can tell a lot about a couple and their couch. If you could put two on a couch, spooning; could it be better? --If your credit sucks, we all can have great credit and loose a job, but if you are not responsible enough to know how to manage your credit, time to go. --Do you know what the word Integrity means? Do you do the right thing, even when no one is looking? Unfortunately, I am not perfect. One time I thought I was. You take some bruises in life and don't come out so rosy on the other side. You pick yourself up again and say wow, did I do that? Lets all pray for the strength and courage to be better next time. --I am stopping you at "Hello"; say No to Drugs and smoking. Alcohol in moderation. And believe it or not, love them coffee drinkers. There is nothing like hanging out on a deck in the earlier morning listening to the birds with your favorite someone with a cup of Joe. My answer to fixing ailments is to get away, sitting face to face, and have a cup of coffee and talk. --For some reason, I get a lot of lewd comments from new suitors.Not sure if it is their age, lack of knowledge about social expectations from today's technologies (texting) or level of perversion.I expect to be treated with respect.If before a 1st date, you feel like sending me a picture of your body parts or ask me if I shave or trim, go away!!!! Are other woman really like that?Don't worry, I am not a prude, but give me a break.

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