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05 April 2017, 08:00
Photo: weheartit If you've met a guy you like, you're probably eager to flirt and text him. But here are 6 texts to never send... unless you don't want to hear from him again. Keywords: flirting, single, texting, texting etiquetteread more
05 April 2017, 08:00
Photo: weheartit Women sometimes think they can change the men they like. But here are 4 types of men you will NEVER be able to change, no matter how hard you try. Keywords: commitment, Dating, men, Relationships, types of menread more
04 April 2017, 08:00
Photo: WeHeartIt Some feminists see chivalry as antiquated, sometimes exist, romantic gestures, but women should be able to expect equality AND chivalry from men. Keywords: chivalry, feminism, men, Romance, romantic gesturesread more
04 April 2017, 08:00
Photo: weheartit Independent women sometimes struggle to find love in their lives because they put themselves first. But here's what might be holding you back. Keywords: confidence, Dating, feminism, independent womenread more
04 April 2017, 08:00
Photo: weheartit When you're dating someone new, you do anything you can to not embarrass yourself. Here's how to avoid that awkward situation completely. Keywords: attraction, Dating, dating advice, men, embarrassmentread more
01 April 2017, 08:00
Photo: weheartit We all want to have a good relationship but sometimes rush into things too quickly. Here's how to avoid being the clingy girlfriend in a relationship. Keywords: Dating, girlfriend, Relationships, clingy, clingy girlfriendread more
01 April 2017, 08:00
Photo: pexels Has texting changed the way you approach dating? It's easy, quick and low-risk ... but does texting when dating hurt your chances of finding a meaningful relationship? Here's a look at some texting when dating rules. Keywords: Dating, dating tips, relationship advice, relationship expert, texting, dating 101, communication, finding love, texting and dating, texting rules, relationship challengesread more
31 March 2017, 08:00
Photo: weheartit On the ride home from a date spent struggling through a conversation with a guy I had very little in common with, he turned to me from the driver’s seat and asked, “So, want to do this again sometime?” I was genuinely confused by his suggestion. He had spent the majority of our dinner at Applebee’s talking about his workout routines and the caloric content of the menu items; I was a Gender and Sexuality Studies student writing my thesis on how gender stereotypes contribute to eating disorders. It seemed like a horrible match. “Honestly,” I said, “I’m not sure if we’d have much to talk about.” “Do you mean all of that was for nothing?” he asked, taking me aback. “This always happens... And what girls don’t realize is, I’m actually a nice guy,” he went on. “Most of the guys you dated before, you know, were probably just trying to pop you.” (I still cringe at that phrase.) The unfortunate thing is, he actually succeeded in guilting me into a second date. At the time, I wasn’t well versed in what a self-identified “nice guy” (also sometimes known in feminist circles as Nice Guys™) actually was: someone who feels entitled to women for his supposed kindness. I now know that Nice Guy™ behavior — which is based on one’s sense of superiority stemming from one’s “nice guy” status and usually accompanied by indignation when women reject the “nice guy” — is actually a telltale sign that someone is not nice. While others may exhibit similar behavior, regardless of gender or orientation, “nice guys” are typically men who date women, since the entitlement they feel has misogynistic roots. Since my first run-in with Nice Guy Syndrome™, I’ve encountered more “nice guys” who use similar arguments to advocate for themselves — statements I now view as red flags. Here are a few popular lies men tell and what you need to know if someone says them to you. 1. "You owe nice guys a chance." Tenor “Nice guys” might claim that they deserve your consideration for being so nice. We hear this not just from “nice guys” themselves, but also from other people who give us relationship advice. If only you would just give that nice guy a chance, he might surprise you. The pop culture trope of the dogged nice guy doesn’t help either: Movies and TV are full of “nice” men who finally obtain the leading lady’s affections through perseverance once she realizes how nice he is (think Ross in Friends or Lenny in The Big Bang Theory). But even if someone actually is nice, you may not want to date him for a number of reasons: You have nothing in common, you’re not attracted to him, you don’t really want to date anyone, and so on. All these reasons are valid. Being nice is not a ticket to a date with a person of your choice. And if he believes it is, he doesn’t respect your autonomy, which is not nice. 2. "Nice guys finish last because women like bad boys." Giphy “Nice guys” often evoke notions of fairness when they complain about being passed over. One guy I met on OKCupid even told me it was “unjust” that women didn’t respond to his messages. Sending messages out into the ether is a struggle all OKCupid users can relate to, but most of us don’t consider this paucity of replies “unjust” because we don’t feel entitled to a message in the first place. As the Tumblr Nice Guys of OKCupid demonstrates, there’s a notable correlation between guys who call themselves “nice” in their profiles and guys with misogynistic entitlement complexes. Like many of OKCupid’s nice guys, this online dater complained that he gets overlooked while less-nice guys who don’t deserve women’s affections are more popular. This is a widespread stereotype: women like bad boys. The belief that women like jerks contains hints of misogyny because it stems from the stereotype that women want to be dominated and controlled. While some women may date men who are domineering because our culture prescribes that this is what they should want, “nice guys” often make this accusation against women who aren’t seeking out jerks. More often, they’re saying “women like bad boys” to discount other reasons women might pass them up. Accusing women of rejecting them just because they’re not jerks is a convenient way for them not to examine themselves. Regardless, the assumption that people should be awarded dates according to how nice they are, with good people getting many and jerks getting very few, simply doesn’t reflect how dating works. Human beings are not rewards for kindness. Sometimes, nice people struggle with their love lives. Sometimes, not-so-nice people have an easier time. This may seem unfair, but the whole concept of fairness is irrelevant when personal choices are concerned. You do not have to be an equal-opportunity dater. 3. "Nice guys get stuck in the friend zone." Tumblr Some men complain that women only want to be their friends when they would make such great boyfriends (better boyfriends, they often point out, than the “bad boys” their friends date). Once again, pop culture reinforces this belief. The dogged “nice guy” in shows like Friends and The Big Bang Theory is often a friend mistakenly overlooked as a romantic prospect. Viewers are supposed to think it was dense of the woman to not realize that the love she sought was in front of her the whole time. And even when the nice guy accepts his “friend” status, he is often rewarded for his patience when she realizes he was what she wanted all along. Stories of friends who get together can be sweet, and unrequited crushes on friends are always painful, but there are plenty of valid reasons not to date a friend. Someone who is a great friend for you may not be the best boyfriend for you, and that’s okay. And even if he could hypothetically be a good boyfriend, you may just not feel that way about him, and that’s okay too. If someone harbors any hostility toward you for “only” wanting to be his friend, he’s probably not the best friend or boyfriend. Your Keywords: Dating, feminism, men, nice guys, Relationships, lies men tellread more
23 March 2017, 08:00
Photo: WeHeartIt To shave or not to shave … that is the million-dollar question. From landing strips to Brazilian waxes, men tell us what they think about pubic hair. Keywords: brazilian wax, men, wax, sex, hair removal, what guys really thinkread more
23 March 2017, 08:00
Photo: weheartit Though being in a long-distance relationship is difficult, it can actually benefit your relationship in the long run. Here are some of the POSITIVES of loving someone far away. Keywords: long distance relationship, Relationships, long-distance relationshipread more